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2015 Book Blogger Discussion – Do People IRL Know You Blog?

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Laura and I have discussed how very little some of our loved ones know about our blogs. For instance, no one in my family reads my blog. Nor do they ask me what I’m reading, why I’m receiving book mail or want to fly off to New York for a book conference. I’ve learned to be okay with it, as I do have a few friends who read my blog (Hi Julie!) and some loved ones who follow me on Twitter.

On the other side of things, I work with blogs and social media for my day job, but I would be really self-conscious if I knew my boss was reading my blog or tweets. Is that weird?

Do your friends and family read your blog? How much do they know and understand your involvement in the book blogging community? Are they interested in your reading life? Thanks for your thoughts!

Visit the challenge hosts Feed Your Fiction Addiction and It Starts At Midnight to see more interesting discussion questions for bloggers.

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48 comments on “2015 Book Blogger Discussion – Do People IRL Know You Blog?

  1. KatieMcD
    June 17, 2015

    A few people in my life know that I blog, but I don’t think they really get what a blog is… this refers to my in-laws, parents, and some friends. I have a few friends who read my blog consistently, which is nice. Not toooo many people at work know about it – I work in the medical field, and it’s just SUCH a departure from that, so it just doesn’t really come up. I was SUPER nervous about telling anyone at first, but now if it comes up organically I just go with it…..

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      With a few exceptions, I don’t think anyone in my life really understands what this all about either. When I first started blogging about books, I told my co-workers, but 3-4 years later I don’t think they have remembered.

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  2. stephaniesbookreviews
    June 17, 2015

    There’s probably about 5 or 6 people I know in real life who know I have a blog and out of those only maybe 1 or 2 ever read it and not consistently. I’m ok with that, though. I’ve always been really hesitant to have people read something I write so I find the anonymity of the internet nice.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      Maybe it’s the introverted side of me, but I also like the anonymity of the internet. I’m still too shy about talking on Twitter though. I feel more comfortable in a comment box.

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      • stephaniesbookreviews
        June 18, 2015

        I only have Twitter for blog use and not personal use (I use Facebook for personal, but not blog), though I don’t do a lot of interacting. Mostly just links to my posts and tweet about giveaways.

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        • ebookclassics
          June 18, 2015

          That sounds like a good way of talking and being active on Twitter without getting too personal.

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  3. I’m glad I am not the only one with this experience! I have felt somehow shy about plugging my blog to friends and family…on the other hand, I do find it a bit odd that my siblings, who are very literary (an actress, a librarian and an editor among them) never read or comment on my blog. I know my parents look at it so I have to be careful what I say about them. : )

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      It’s too bad your family isn’t a little more interested in your blog, but a few of us seem to be in that boat. I try to be mindful of what I say here or on Twitter just in case someone in my life spontaneously decides to check out what I do.

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  4. Naomi
    June 17, 2015

    Most of my family know I have a blog, but only a few of them read it. My parents probably read it the most, so I always have that in my mind when I’m writing. Maybe it would be good to not have to worry about that.
    On the other hand, very few of the people I know in my town know that I blog. Only my two closest friends. I feel self-conscious about having most people in real life read what I write. I’m also afraid some of them wouldn’t get it. Most people don’t even know that I read a lot. They probably think I’m industriously cleaning, baking, and crafting when I’m at home. Ha!

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      I think it would actually be funny to ask people what they think all the books and the blogging is about. When I tried to explain BEA, my husband said, “So you’re going to sit in a room with other people and talk about books?” It’s kind of true, but not true at the same time! πŸ™‚

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      • Naomi
        June 18, 2015

        It is kind of funny when you think about it. And, sometimes I even think, why am I doing this? But, the answer is always because it makes me happy. πŸ™‚

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  5. janceewright
    June 17, 2015

    My roommates know and read, as well as some of my coworkers. My family knows but they don’t read or follow or anything. The anonymity is nice most of the time, but when one of my friends does read, it’s cool to have a sounding board.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      As much as I enjoy talking about books through blogging, I have a few IRL friends that I talk to books about and it’s so heavenly! I have been wondering if I should try a IRL book club again.

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      • janceewright
        June 19, 2015

        That would be fun. I’m sure there are several IRL book clubs around, but my schedule has been so wonky I don’t think I have time. It might be something I look to in the future though.

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  6. Marisa@TheDailyDosage
    June 17, 2015

    Very few know I blog except family and a few friends. I want the support and yet I like that it’s something separate from personal relationships.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      Support and enthusiasm for what I’m doing is something I would like from the people IRL, but it’s just not the case. But I do understand what you mean about the separation being nice. I like not having to worry about being misinterpreted for any reason.

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  7. Brian Joseph
    June 18, 2015

    I can really relate to this. Most of my family and friends know that I blog but other then my wife, most do not really seem interested in it.

    One reason that I started my blog was that I did not have enough people to talk books with.

    I try never to post or tweet anything that I would be embarrassed to show all of my family, friends and coworkers.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      I’m happy that your wife is supportive of your reading and blogging (and that bread for Bloomsday she made was so impressive!). I also started blogging in the hopes of finding other to talk about books and I’m sure you wouldn’t have found others to discuss Ulysses or Trollope or other classics without your blog.

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  8. Julie
    June 18, 2015

    Hi back!! I’m happy to know you in real life and to read your blog. It was very exciting to learn that someone I knew had a blog! I love talking about books and reading about books, but I myself have no urge to write…never have. I can talk your ear off about my opinions on books, and I am happy to read review upon review, but ask me to pen (or type as the case may be) a book review…and ugh…no thanks! You are a good writer and I enjoy your blog a lot. Do you feel that bloggers are closet (or not so closeted) writers that now finally have a way to get that all out? Does that make sense…?

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    • ebookclassics
      June 18, 2015

      It absolutely makes sense! Blogging is an incredible outlet for creativity and many bloggers are not only great writers, but amazing at crafting, cooking, DIY, etc. I wanted to be a writer/journalist when I was in high school, but never pursued it. I guess blogging is making up for going in a different direction.

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  9. I have friends and family that read my blog. But, they did that more when it was a personal blog and not a book blog. Once it turned to a book blog, my family kind of gave up on it, but I do have friends still.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 20, 2015

      Do you think reading your personal blog was like peeking into a diary for your family? If I wrote only about personal things, I think my family would be more interested in my blog.

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  10. jessicabookworm
    June 18, 2015

    I often talk to my friends and family about books and sometimes my blog. My dad, brother and one friend are the only ones that have ever been on my blog, but I don’t think they go on it regularly. I’ve never really thought or been bothered by it though. I started my blog in the first place to talk about books because my family and friends don’t read as much as me.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 20, 2015

      It’s nice that you have a few people in your life reading your blog. Looks like most of started blogging so we talk about books and find other people to discuss them.

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  11. The Paperback Princess
    June 18, 2015

    It’s kind of an awkward thing to bring up without sounding like “look at me, look how great I am!” I think more people now know that I blog about books but I’m not sure how many people in my real life actually read it. That said, everyone in my life (and I mean everyone) knows what a hardcore book nerd I am and they are always asking me for recommendations or about what I’m reading.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 20, 2015

      Ha ha, yeah there’s no natural way of saying hey I’m a blogger when you’re having a conversation. I think that it’s a real honour if you have people coming to you for book recommendations. The few people who know I blog don’t ask me for book recommendations because they think the books I read are too literary. Sometimes they make recommendations to me and it’s usually whatever is popular at the time like Girl On the Train.

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      • The Paperback Princess
        June 20, 2015

        But The Girl on the Train is so good! I agree though, it’s a total honour when people trust me to recommend reading material. And I definitely take it seriously. You need to get these readers hooked one great book and then they will want more like it. A lot of people have this weird idea about books being too serious across the board.

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        • ebookclassics
          June 22, 2015

          After I wrote it, I realized I shouldn’t have singled our The Girl on the Train because I haven’t read it and I’m sure it is good. I agree it seems a lot of people seem to think all books are serious and too hard to read. Leftover feelings from school maybe?

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  12. Cecilia
    June 18, 2015

    I haven’t been blogging lately, but for the longest time I also kept my blogging life and my “IRL” life separate. I was writing about personal issues and I definitely didn’t want friends and especially family reading…ironic, isn’t it? I’d preferred sharing with strangers but in the process made some really good friends that way. As time went on I began to share my blog a little more with some real life friends…I chose carefully and in that process gained some new readers and got closer to some of those friends. I find it interesting that once we are meeting in real life we don’t talk about my/our blogs, whether it’s meeting a blogger friend in real life or a real life friend who’s reading my blog.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 20, 2015

      Hi Cecilia, it’s nice to hear from you. I hope you are doing well. I understand what you are saying about blogging about personal issues, but more for expression and putting them out there in the universe, not necessarily to share with the people close to you. I hope blogging gave you what you needed at the time. Do you plan to start blogging again at some point? Are you still reading?

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      • Cecilia
        June 24, 2015

        Hi! I do want to start blogging again and I probably need to just sit down and write something down. Right now we are packing for a move, so I feel guilty if I am not focused on that (though I waste plenty of time regardless! ;-)). My reading’s going very slowly, but right now I’m reading Lacy Eye by Jessica Treadway (psychological thriller) and it’s pretty good so far. It’s nice to check back in and to see that you and other blog friends are still writing πŸ™‚

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  13. Elizabeth
    June 20, 2015

    I think most of my IRL friends/family think blogging is for wackos, but they all are aware of it. My sweet nephew emailed me last week for the link so he could use it to get to Amazon, where he spent $300! But I don’t think any of my IRL people visit regularly, only when I send them the reminder about the affiliate link at the end of the summer in time for holiday shopping.
    Isn’t that one reason many of us blog about books? Many people, in my case most, in our world aren’t readers in the first place?

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    • ebookclassics
      June 22, 2015

      I laughed when you said your friends and family think blogging is for wackos. I actually suspect some people in my life feel the same. If they’re taking a look at your blog to find the affiliate link, at least that’s something.

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  14. bluekaren
    June 21, 2015

    People know I blog, but no one I know cares. I don’t mention it at work. I have separate accounts on Facebook and don’t follow anyone IRL on twitter.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 22, 2015

      It must be somewhat liberating to know that you don’t have to worry about the content of your blog or what you discuss on Twitter.

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  15. Cayt
    June 21, 2015

    All of my family and friends know that I have a blog but none of them really read it, other than just browsing around when they notice I post something. I don’t mind strangers reading my blog but people I know makes me feel self conscious. My boss recently told me he really liked my blog. I have no idea how or why he found it and it freaked me out a bit!

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    • ebookclassics
      June 22, 2015

      I think I would feel exactly the same way if my boss said he read my blog. I know I probably shouldn’t worry about it, but I would be anxious about my writing (since he’s very big on correct grammar, etc.) and my technical skills (since we use WordPress and Twitter, etc. at work and I’m always winging it both professionally and personally).

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  16. A.M.B.
    June 22, 2015

    Interesting topic! I keep my real life and my blog life separate. There are a handful of people who know about my blog (my sisters, my parents, my husband), but that’s about it. I’m a lawyer, and I really don’t want my clients to check out my blog and think that my public interest law firm practices the type of book-related law I talk about on there (copyright infringement, First Amendment, publishing contract disputes, etc). I use my real initials and my real first name on my blog, but my last name is different.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 22, 2015

      I could definitely see how important it would be to keep personal and professional separate when it involves clients and confidentiality, among many other things. Do find it difficult to juggle your career, blogging and family life? Or is it a labour of love?

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      • A.M.B.
        June 22, 2015

        Blogging keeps me sane! It’s a nice distraction from the stresses of everyday life. I only wish there were more hours in the day. How about you? How do you juggle it all?

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        • ebookclassics
          June 23, 2015

          I wish there were more hours of the day too! I usually sneak my blogging or schedule Twitter stuff when I find random moments of free time. First thing in the morning before kids are awake or when they are asleep, my lunch hour at work or when it’s slow. Even if I’m just putting ideas into an draft post, so I can work on it later.

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  17. Silvara
    June 28, 2015

    My Dad knows I blog. He’s constantly amazed at the number of free books I get. But he doesn’t read my blog. My co-workers and some other family members know I blog, but they don’t read it or know the name/URL to find it.

    Pretty much all the people who read my blog are complete strangers. (With the exceptions of a few blog friends I’ve made since starting the blog.) And that’s fine by me. I’ve heard horror stories about people finding out other people review books, and then hounding them to read THEIR book. Or their uncles-cousins-sister in laws-nephews-son-twice-removeds book.

    I’ll take being mostly ignored by people I know over being bugged to review book-x any day! *laughs*

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    • ebookclassics
      June 29, 2015

      Hmm, I never thought about being hounded to review a book. I think that would be a very awkward situation to be in especially with family and close friends. I’m with you and would rather they didn’t know about my blog.

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  18. DoingDewey
    June 28, 2015

    I used to be very careful not to share my blog with my family and non-blogger friends, but since I’ve become more comfortable with my blogging voice and how blogging works, I’m excited to share it with people. I do try to keep my blog separate from my professional life online (personal and professional twitter, not sharing my blog posts to my personal facebook), but people can definitely connect me to my blog and I’m still careful to only post things I’d be OK with my colleagues reading. I know some of my friends, including work friends, do read my blog, but none of them comment.

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    • ebookclassics
      June 29, 2015

      You made me think that when blogging we should try to remain professional to a certain degree. Even though our blogs are personal, they still represent who we are to the public.

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  19. A lot of my friends and family know I blog, but only my mom really reads it. The only people I would feel awkward about reading my blog are some people from my church (where I teach in the K-1 classroom) because some of the books I review are 18+ or include themes that not everyone would agree with.

    Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

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    • ebookclassics
      July 9, 2015

      Yes, I could see how that could be a little awkward and uncomfortable. As I think a few of us have said, sometimes it’s nice just to remain anonymous and just be able to enjoy blogging that way.

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